Advice from the Professors

Of Mommies and Men

From: San Fran

Question

Dear Professors Bakeman and Krinbring,

I just finished reading your book, which I found to be hilarious and truly eye opening. As a single guy, I was skeptical at first about reading a book on "Mommys" and marriage (sports, beer and sex are more current topics for me these days). However, after a very enjoyable read, I can say that this book is a must own for every guy who is contemplating walking the nuptial gauntlet! Hell, single guys can benefit from this too. It certainly confirmed for me that many of the women that I have been dating are "Mommies in waiting." God help us!

Over the past few years, doing the dating thing, I noticed certain tendencies in many of the women I was dating and felt certain pressures, which I now realize were their attempts to control and impose their female-come-Mommy wills on me. They were probably unaware of it, but regardless, I won't let it happen! Your book is a call to arms for me. Now that I have read it, I feel better prepared and more empowered to deal with the Mommy onslaught that will inevitably come my way.

In my opinion, at the end of the day, when the sex is gone, the children grown, menopause past and the mortgage paid off, what it all really comes down to is friendships and happiness. Of course this may be too idealistic. Can men and "Mommys" really be friends? and I don't mean just on a cocktail conversation level, but on a beer drinkin' buddy level. I would love to hear your opinion. But whatever the answer, I thank you for your insightful contribution to mankind's knowledge of male-Mommy relationships.

Regards, James C., San Francisco, CA

Comments

Dear SF,

The basic question you raise is huge! Can man and Mommy ever be friends? Pre or post menopause?

The first part of this question was posed by Sally in the movie “When Harry Met Sally”. And Harry said NO- because guys are always thinking about boinking women. This means in essence that the sex (her power) will always get in the way of a “buddy” relationship.

Your question is also prospective- What about when menopause kicks in and Mommy is no longer the fertile thing she once was? Can a buddy-like friendship be established? Sadly, again the answer is no. You see, even though Mommy is post-menopausal, Daddy is not, and regardless of his odds, he's always scanning for available tail.

We can only turn to the three-year marriage plan (as outlined in our book) for an answer.

Thank you for the support and your question.

Profs. Bakeman and Krinbring