Advice from the Professors

Fear in the Windy City

From: Going, Going, almost Gone

Question

Awesome site, keep it up.

Ok, I’m aware that you must "technically" be married in order to ask a "marriedtomommy" question, but I’m on the verge of marriage. I’ll be married in the very, very near future. But I have a fear. I am concerned that my near future wife will change, and the marriage will go sour. I feel this way because I am suspicious of her, (she has given me no reason to be suspicious but I am).

I’m suspicious of the way she treats me now (which is great, she's understanding, and very warm hearted). But I feel that she treats me too good. So I guess my question is how long will a woman honour her mate? and what makes the average "mommy" want to honour her mate?

By the way, I work, I’m in my senior year of college, and I’m (in my own opinion) a fairly attractive guy, and I DO treat her well, (she agrees). So add that to the situation, and tell me what you think.

Comments

Dear Honour and Offer,

First, it’s OK to turn to the professors for help even if you are not married yet. Unfortunately the professors can't speak to the topic of "honour".

That being said, you are right to be a bit suspicious, because there’s a little Mommy lurking in all women. And, YES, your bride-to-be in the “very, very near future” is undoubtedly a wolf in sheep’s clothing, to a certain extent. The question you are asking is- what level of Mommy may she become?

Here’s a quick field troubleshooting tip that will help you diagnose your situation: ask a series of question to the pre-Mommy.

Question 1. Can I pick out the tuxedos for the groomsmen?

Question 2. Can one of my old girlfriends come to the wedding?

Question 3. Will you let her be a last-minute bridesmaid?

Be careful to watch the facial expressions of your betrothed as you ask these questions and as she responds, it is here that you’ll see her true reaction. Of course if she lapses into a Major Mommy Moment by the time you hit question 2 you’ll know whether to call off the wedding or start taking surfing lessons to ride your new TSUNAMI MOMMY.

Hang Ten!